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Success is not measured by how many times you get knocked down; it is measured by whether or not you choose to get up.

Your life is like a book, but it's non-fiction, rather than a fairy tale. Some chapters contain tales of great success and happiness, and some feature failure and sadness.

When you experience the inevitable challenging times in life, how do you react?

Do you wallow in self-pity and let the experience cripple you, or do you take the challenge head on and remain positive and bounce right back?

You can choose.

Many of the unpleasant events that happen to us in life are things we bring onto ourselves. Others, like being struck by lightning or being rear-ended on a highway, are events we can't control. But even these types of bad things do not need to keep us down for long. Though we can't prevent the bad event from happening, we can choose and control our reaction to it.

For example, if you're on your way to an important business meeting and you get a flat tire, how do you react? Do you get out of your car and curse yourself, the road, the highway department, and how rotten your life is, or do you assess the damage and fix the tire or call roadside assistance? No matter which reaction you choose, you still have the same challenge: a flat tire. You either choose to feel sorry for yourself, or you choose to fix the problem and get on with life.

Developing strong resilience is not something you can suddenly do in a day. It's a steady, ongoing process that takes time, effort and inner strength. In short, resilience is the process of reacting positively when you're faced with hardship, shock, difficulty, adversity, or even major stress, such as family and relationship problems, workplace disputes or money worries. It's how you get back on your feet after experiencing a challenging time in your life. What most people don't understand is that they are more resilient than they think they are, and often display great acts of courage and nobility without even realizing it.

Being resilient doesn't mean that you're immune to adversity or going through a rough patch. We all go through hard times, emotionally and sometimes physically. The thing is, you can't become resilient until you've gone through the mill a few times. In fact, the road to becoming resilient is more than likely going to involve going through the pain barrier more than once. It involves bringing together all your experiences, thoughts, and coping mechanisms to initiate changes in your character and moral fiber.

There are numerous factors which can help you build your resilience. A crucial aspect is having a loving and supportive family around you to help you deal with the hard times. A loving family is important as it will create a loving and trusting environment. A caring, positive family is also a great source of role models who can provide the love and encouragement you need to become a stronger person. You also need to have a positive outlook on life and an optimistic view of yourself. You need to be confident in your own strengths and abilities. You also need to be emotionally resilient by being able to understand and cope with very strong emotio