The Tenth Commandment Of Strategic Planning: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate
Jacob M. EngelForbes Councils Member
There is a great saying that if all you have in your toolbox is a hammer then everything will look like a nail. Knowing how to communicate is a learned skill and often times we have to choose our skill sets very carefully based on the situation. In all my trainings and coaching one very critical piece that many CEOs need help with is their communication style. While some are very direct (which can cause pain) most are not direct, nor open nor honest for many reasons I've written about previously. Today, I’d like to share various communication strategies that can be very effective when done properly and for the right reasons. One such strategy is "radical candor." Author Kim Scott coined this term when her then-boss at Google, Sheryl Sandberg, used very direct, open and honest feedback to help Scott identify a blind spot. Scott was an up and coming executive at Google and did a presentation for Google's leadership team. The presentation went very well. Or so she thought. Afterward, Sandberg asked Scott if she'd walk back to her office with her. Scott immediately started thinking about what could have gone wrong but couldn’t figure it out. Sandberg recounted the strengths of her performance and made time to celebrate the success of the presentation before revealing her feedback: "You said 'um' a lot. Were you aware of it?" Scott was aware but felt it wasn't a big deal. Sandberg asked, "Was it because you were nervous? Would you like me to recommend a speech coach for you? Google will pay for it." Scott brushed the offer off, saying "I didn't feel nervous. Just a verbal tic, I guess." Sandberg then replied, "I can see I am going to have to be really, really direct to get through to you. You are one of the smartest people I know, but saying 'um' so much makes you sound stupid." Now, that got Scott's attention and she agreed to be coached. More importantly, she then went on to codify different communication styles and share them in her book Radical Candor.
There are four radical candor quadrants, divided by two axes. One axis is labeled "care personally," the other is "challenge directly." When we both care personally and challenge directly, it's radical candor. In other words, in order to create an open and honest feedback culture, you need to first care personally, meaning you demonstrate that you really want the person to be successful and to grow. Then, you have to be able to challenge directly, meaning you clearly address the issue head-on with that person.